I’ve been looking all over the i for someone who help me with my problem, then I found this.

Please help.

the problem:

I am in a b school, so there are dorms and such.

I met this guy when he joihe school about a year ago.

hes a tad older than me, Im 15, he’s 18…

he is my best friend. We share on is, music etd i think he cares about me, he is a genuinely nice guy, he is perfect.

I am in love with him.

I really really am, and I t imagine my life without him.

I know that sounds like a lot, but all I really want is one experience.

Im not “out” yet, although I expee people assume that I’m gay…

he is here for another year, and then he is gone…and i never want to lose him as a friend, but I feel that if I never get to be intimate with him, i will never be satisfied…and it’s so difficult.

what I do?

please help.

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maybebi says:

March 28, 2011 at 9:35 am

Hi, Jazz -

Ohing really jumped out at me from your ent ― you’re 15. Your whole future is filled with stuff you literally ’t imagi ― not because you’re stupid or anything, but just because life turns out to be so much more awesome and wonderful (and sometimes painful and sad) than we expect.

You really like this friend of yours, and that’s great. But he’s going to be gone from school in another year, and then what? It’ll be hard to say goodbye even if you’re still “just good friends” then. It’s much harder to say goodbye to a friend you’ve let yourself be in love with. It’s harder still when you’ve also had sex with him… trust me, I know from experience.

My advice? Realize that what you’ve probably got is just a crush. Sounds girly? Nope, guys do it all the time, even on uys. It doesn’t necessarily mean sexual desire, it doesn’t mean anyone’s gay, it doesn’t mean he’d make a good boyfriend. (First boyfriend, I’m guessing?)

Figure out why you like this guy so much. Sounds like you really look up to him. Work on being like him, if you want. But don’t worry about getting into his pants… even if it’s frustrating… don’t make things harder on yourself by making the eventual separation that much more painful. Focus on knowing who you are and what you want. You’ll be that much more ready for a real relationship when the right person (guy irl) es along.

Think about it… right now, you’re just going to miss seeing him and hearing him and being around him. If you try to get him into bed, and you succeed, you’ll wind up missing his toud the feel of him in your arms and the way his body feels on yours. If you try to get him into bed, and FAIL ― it’ll be awkward, even if he doesn’t get mad about it.

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Jazz says:

March 28, 2011 at 10:31 am

Thank you so much- This has helped alot :)

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